I’d planned the perfect bachelorette getaway one month before my wedding. Just me and my best friends doing yoga on the beach, making pottery, and drinking tea in cute cafés.
Derek’s arms wrapped around my waist as I packed, but his voice was laced with tension.
“You sure you want to go?” he asked, his chin resting on my shoulder.
I continued folding. “Of course, I’m sure. It’s three days at the beach with my best friends.”
“Some guys don’t like their fiancées going away right before the wedding.”
I turned to kiss him softly. “This isn’t going to be a wild party, babe. You know that.”
He nodded, but his frown didn’t fade. “I just worry. I love you so much…”
Derek had always been possessive. He didn’t like it when I went out without him and would say things like, “I trust you, it’s other people I don’t trust.” Or, like the time I wanted to go to a yoga retreat, “You’re too pretty to travel alone.”
He was protective because he cared, and because he was afraid to lose me. It was frustrating at times, but I took it as his way of showing how much he loved me.
“And I love you, too.” I wrapped my arms around him. “I can’t wait to be your wife.”
He smiled faintly, but I could tell he was still on edge. Watching me pack was clearly upsetting him, so I decided to finish up later.
I waited until Derek was settled in front of the TV after dinner before heading upstairs to finish packing.
A few minutes later, I shut my suitcase and put it in the closet, out of sight, so it wouldn’t work on Derek’s nerves. I just needed one last thing.
I opened the drawer where I kept my passport.
It wasn’t there.
My heart skipped. I rifled through the drawer again, pushing aside old receipts and random papers, but it was gone!
I rushed downstairs and into the living room. “Babe? Have you seen my passport? It’s not in its usual spot.”
Derek leaped from the couch. “No, I haven’t seen it, but I’ll help you look.”
The house turned into a disaster zone. Drawers yanked out, shoes dumped, closets overturned. I even popped the trunk of Derek’s car, hoping maybe it fell behind a seat.
The clean coastal getaway felt a world away as I crouched, sobbing beside a pile of unfolded clothes, the air heavy with frustration and confusion over my missing passport.
“This doesn’t make sense,” I said, my voice cracking. “I’ve never taken it out of that drawer except for trips.”
Derek rubbed my back, his voice distant, almost detached: “We’ll find it. Maybe you left it at your mom’s?”
“I haven’t been to Mom’s in weeks.”
“What about your office?”
“Why would I take my passport to work?” I looked up at him, studying his face. His eyes wouldn’t meet mine.
“I don’t know, babe. I’m just trying to help.”
Despite his words, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off. Derek’s concern seemed… too calm.
“It’s getting late,” he said, checking his watch. “Maybe sleep on it? Things will look clearer in the morning.”
On my third day of searching, my best friend Tasha arrived with her boyfriend, Mark, who she’d met through Derek.
“I can’t believe you haven’t found it, yet!” Tasha exclaimed. “This doesn’t make sense.”
From the corner of my eye, I noticed Mark hang his head and cross his arms.
“I don’t get it, either,” I replied.
I gestured to the living room, inviting them to get comfortable while I made coffee. Tasha went and settled on the sofa, but Mark lingered in the hall. He kept glancing anxiously between me and the floor.
Then, in a hushed voice, he leaned in and said, “I can’t keep this from you. He has it. Derek took your passport. Hid it in his suitcase.”
“What? Why would he—”
“He was scared you’d cheat on him during that trip.” Mark looked ashamed. “I told him it was insane. But he wouldn’t listen.”
I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I braced myself against the wall as tears sprang to my eyes. My mind flashed through every moment Derek had “protected” me, every time he’d kept me from doing something because he worried.
“I-I can’t believe he’d do this to me,” I muttered. “Thank you for telling me, Mark.”
Mark sighed. “I’m just sorry I didn’t tell you sooner.”
I nodded.
“What are you going to do now?” he asked.
I wiped my eyes as I thought about my options. A myriad of feelings tore at my heart: hurt, betrayal, and indignation.
I considered confronting Derek but quickly dismissed the thought. I’d worked so hard to prove he could trust me. If he didn’t know by now that he had no reason to be jealous when it came to me, then he never would.
“I think,” I said slowly, “that Derek needs to learn a lesson.”
That night, Derek came home like nothing had happened. He kissed my forehead, smiling gently.
“Any luck with the passport?” he asked, his concern so convincing that for a moment, I doubted Mark’s story.
“No,” I said, forcing my voice to sound defeated. “I’ve given up.”
“Maybe it’s fate. Maybe you should just stay.”
I smiled back. “I guess so.”
The trap was set.
I texted the girls, who were already in on the plan.
Morning came bright and sunny. The girls piled into our living room with suitcases and sunhats.
I announced, teary-eyed, “I can’t go.”
Derek, sitting beside me with an arm wrapped comfortingly around my shoulders, looked relieved. He even grinned.
But that’s when Tasha leaned forward, voice sweet as syrup: “Well, I guess we’ll all have to skip the ocean trip. I hear there’s a fireman-themed dance show downtown.”
Kim chimed in, “And a rooftop club with a DJ and drinks.”
Another friend added, “Chocolate body painting at the spa.”
Derek’s face turned crimson. “You’re NOT doing that.”
I shrugged. “What else are we supposed to do? I can’t go to the ocean, remember?”
Derek rose from his seat, looming over me as he barked, “No, absolutely not. I won’t allow you to go to any of those places. No clubs, no firemen dancers, and especially no chocolate body paint. And no bachelorette trip!”
Everyone fell silent. The girls exchanged knowing glances. This was exactly what they had expected — what I had warned them about.
I looked at him and for the first time saw his jealousy for what it really was: control.
I stood up, mirroring his rage with eerie calm.
“You’re right. There’s no bachelorette trip anymore.” I pulled my passport out of my pocket, eyes locked on his. “Because no one’s getting married. I know what you did.”
His face went from red to white in an instant.
But I wasn’t finished with him, yet.
“I need you to pack your things and leave,” I told him.
“This is my house, too.”
“The lease is in my name. You have until we get back from the trip.”
He stared at me like he didn’t recognize me. The truth was, I barely recognized myself — this new person who could stand up to him, who could see through his manipulation.
I did go on that trip. No DJs. No dancers. Just my girls, our badly made mugs from pottery class, the scent of salt air and campfire, and laughter that cracked open something inside me.
We sat on the beach the last night, stars splashed across the sky like someone had flicked paint from a brush.
“I can’t believe I almost missed this,” I said, watching the waves crash against the shore.
Tasha nudged my shoulder. “You’re free now. That’s what matters.”
“I keep thinking about all the other things I didn’t do because of him. All the times I thought his jealousy meant he valued me.”
Kim reached for my hand. “Well, now you get to do all those things. And with people who actually love you.”
When we returned home, Derek was gone.
He’d left a letter full of apologies and promises to change, but for the first time, the words didn’t pull at me.
Months later, when I met someone at a pottery studio — someone who taught sculpture and trusted me enough to own a passport — it felt like peace. Like coming home to myself.
He laughed when I told him about my bachelorette trip, about the mugs we made that couldn’t hold liquid because we forgot to glaze the inside.
“I’d love to see it sometime,” he said.
I showed him my misshapen mug the next day.
He turned it over in his hands, admiring it like it was a masterpiece.
“It’s perfect,” he said. “Perfectly you.”
And when he asked if I wanted to join him for a ceramics conference in Vancouver next month, I didn’t hesitate.